3 Blended Family Pitfalls that Can Destroy a Marriage:

  1. Putting your children before your spouse
  2. Reactive instead of proactive communication
  3. Thinking you’re alone in the storm

Cynthia shares practical solutions for each of these challenges in this episode. Listen in to become equipped as a blended family.

 

You can contact Cynthia at:

 

Cynthia recommended these resources:

 

While these books are written to help children and teens understand their blended family, their messages are great for the entire family. 

 
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"But when you turn off your emotions to the people you love, all it does is create distance. Especially us, as men. We tend to turn off all emotion, even when we don’t need to. That used to be me, but it all changed after I found myself on Ground Zero as a firefighter during 9/11.⁠
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The NYC fire department lost 343 firefighters. Being there on that day was like being on another planet. I saw so many people I knew just... vanish. But it was the months afterwards that were incredibly stressful.⁠
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We firefighters don’t get a lot of help with learning to talk about stressful events. We learn to separate our work from our home and that’s about it. The problem was that my wife was stressed out too. She felt like she couldn’t talk to me because she didn’t want to make me feel worse. Then, I couldn’t talk to her because I didn’t want to bring work home. What do you think started happening to my marriage?⁠
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There was no oxygen to give life to my marriage, so the distance crept in. So much of what I teach now is what I learned to do back then. It's called Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). I never thought I’d be traveling around the world talking about emotions. It’s all about flexibility. If we’re okay getting help to turn it off, we should all be okay getting help to turn it back on.” — George Faller, MS, LMFT

 

You can reach George Faller at:

 

George recommended:

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"We’re so open about sharing our story, as many times and as often as necessary, because if one more person can realize this happens, that this is a thing and that they can get out of it, then it’s so worth it." - Cole and Cait Zick, Directors of Moral Revolution

 

In this episode, Cole and Cait share their story of having entirely different upbringings around sex and sexuality, how they merged their lives, and how they healed from being completely disconnected in their sex life. Now, they have a thriving and healthy sex life and they're here to share how they did it. 

 

Cole and Cait recommended:

You can reach Cole and Cait:
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Here’s the YouTube Video we talked about during the shout-out at the beginning on 3 Strategies for Praying Together as a Married Couple

How can we have empirical data to back up the claims we make or advice we give about something so subjective (like relationships)? Hear all about that in this episode as we interview Don and Carrie Cole, Licensed Professional Counselors and Directors of the Gottman Institute.

Don and Carrie share incredible research from the most robust marriage studies ever done, involving 40+ years of observing 3000+ couples in the Love Lab in Seattle. Their insights are grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable. Listen to this episode to see for yourself why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from the Gottman Method.

Don and Carrie recommended these resources for couples who want to invest in their relationship:

You can reach Don and Carrie:
 
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P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:

We go deep "real quick" in this episode, answering these questions:

  • What role do SMELLS play in physical intimacy?
  • Is it normal to have sexual TEMPTATION as a married Christian man?
  • How do I deal with a very ANGRY spouse?

Come join us as we dive even further into like topics at our Monthly LIVE Date Night! (Next one is September 11th @ 5pm-6:30pm PDT and it's called Your Brain, Your Body, and the Bedroom.)

 

When faced with a cancer diagnosis, the way you respond (both as an individual and as a couple) speaks volumes of your maturity, character, and depth.

We had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Daniel Blash and his lovely wife Annemarie Blash about various struggles and setbacks they've experienced in their lifetime together. Their response was unique and reflected the depth of trust they have in God -- a faith that doesn't deny the facts, but defies the facts.

Together, Daniel and Annemarie pastor in St. Louis, Missouri and Dr. Blash also practices as a Psychologist in St. Louis, Missouri.

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Last week, we heard from a couple who shared their story of recovery from pornography addiction. This week, we get to hear from an expert in the field, Rev. Timothy Hadden, CADC-R, an outpatient addictions counselor.

He sheds some light on how addictions form and the red flags to look out for if you suspect that your spouse is addicted. He covers common addictions that he sees in church circles, like prescription medications and pornography, but also shares insight for other addictions like drugs, alcohol, gambling, and internet addiction. Timothy also shares guidelines and boundaries to have in place for a marriage to stay free of addictions. 

Timothy Hadden recommended:

You can contact Timothy Hadden: recovery@hopeconnect.net
 
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This is the first part of a 2-part exclusive interview with Nathan and Martha Driskill, the Young Married Leaders at Christian Life Church in Mequon, WI. In this interview, Nathan shares his childhood story of how the addiction to pornography began and how it followed him into adulthood. Martha joins the story when she shares how she met, dated, and married Nathan, and then how the porn addiction stayed hidden until their 7th year of marriage.

In part 2, Martha shares how she found out about Nathan's addiction and then Nathan and Martha discuss practical steps they took toward healing over the last 13 years (including resources that they recommend to other couples who find themselves in this place of pain and fear).

Nathan recommended the following books for the spouse with the addiction:

Martha recommended the following books for the wounded spouse:

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P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we created for couples who want to become more connected:

Dr. Daniel Blash, a psychologist and pastor in St. Louis, Missouri is anointed, educated, and gifted. It was an honor to interview him about the impact that trauma can have on the marriage. In this episode, Dr. Blash addresses:

  • What trauma is vs. what it looks like
  • Five domains of intimacy
  • Small traumas that build up and the impact they can have on your marriage
  • Holding on to stuff and letting trauma take space in your life
  • How people get triggered
  • How to work through a sexual history
  • Healing through encounters with God and through godly counsel

Dr. Blash recommended:

We also recommend these books for couples healing from sexual trauma:

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"There were times when I felt like God completely forgot about us. So I had to lean on Alana to tell me that this IS worth praying for." In this episode, we interview Danny and Alana Opdyke, who share their story of conquering the low-lows that your marriage can experience when going through chronic pain.

Over the past 20 years of their marriage, Danny has had the following surgeries/procedures:

2002 - Laminectomy / Discectomy of L4/5-LS1
2004 - Anterior & Posterior Lumbar Fusion
2004 - Broken Foot
2006 - Pain Pump #1
2012 - Pain Pump #2
2015 - Snapped Tibia - Rod Placed
2015 - Knee surgery
2016 - Oral Surgeries
2017 - Pain Pump #3 from internal pump failure
2018 - Plantar Plate Rupture/ plate installed / multiple toes fused.
 
Here are the books that Danny + Alana recommend for someone in a chronic health/pain situation:
 
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