People don't wake up and say, "I'm going to have an affair." People usually “slide” into affairs. They think that crossing a boundary will feel like an electrical fence (“Ouch! I don’t ever want to do that again!), but it doesn’t — it often feels good.
 
It can feel liberating because it usually involves feeling heard and understood by someone. It doesn’t even seem like a problem at first.
 
In today’s episode, Lori Pearring, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, walks us through very practical steps for affair-proofing your marriage. She also guides us through some affair-recovery principles that she uses in session with couples.
 
 
Here are the books that Lori references in the interview:
 
Here's a link to Lori’s website.
 
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She blushed as we questioned, “HOW did you make it special when he came home?” and then she responded: “A special meal, special candles, special music...”

This was all part of their intention to “have something familiar in the midst of the crazy”, both as a couple and as a family in the military.

Today on the podcast, Pastor Robert + Maria Rodriguez, Missionaries to Mexico, talk about their experience in the military for decades, and they give practical tips for couples with this dynamic in their marriage and family. Link in bio or swipe up in our story.

We had the privilege of doing a #MissionsForMarriage retreat with the church that this couple pastors in Mexico, and we put pictures of their building in our story today. They did NOT ask us to do this, but we felt the Lord laid it on our hearts to put their account out there for folks to contribute to the building needs for this growing church. Give to their missions efforts here (even if it’s a small amount, it all counts): www.paypal.me/ensenadamxmissions.

Book Recommendations from Team Rodriguez:

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You’ll hear a snippet of a story in the very beginning about a broken man (warning: it’s about a man who pulled the trigger with a gun held to his head)... and then the beauty that came from this brokenness when he committed to intentionally building his marriage and family.

In this episode, Pastor Paul and Lori Elder (pastor in Pueblo, CO for 30+ years) teach us practical tips about building traditions in our marriage and family — whether we come from intact families or from broken homes.

The “I love your more than ______” is a tradition that Pastor Paul and Lori Elder have done in their marriage and with their kids for decades. “Our intention with that was to instill the idea that love for one another is greater than things,” he said. And then she added, “You can make anything a tradition — just something that you repeat, that the kids know is going to happen.” From ways to read Chinese fortune cookies to Totino pizzas in a mini oven, to the very traditions that bind us together as a church family — this episode is chock-full of practical traditions and spiritual insight for your marriage and family.

Book Recommendations from Team Elder:

"Mary Did You Know" - by the Elder Family
 
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“People have these rich fantasy sex lives with decades of porn use and then they go into marriage and they’re thinking it’s going to be a different kind of sex life.

It creates an incredible conflict and it’s difficult to just “get over”. Some people think that if they just kick the habit then they can get on with a healthy marriage and it doesn’t work that way at all.” - Dr. DeVon Mills

Today’s podcast episode is about HEALING YOUR MARRIAGE FROM PORN. Did you know that about 75% of millennial Christians (regardless of gender) are viewing pornography on a weekly basis? In this episode, we interview Dr. DeVon Mills about the effects of pornography on the marriage, but also how to heal from it.

There IS hope. Send this podcast link to somebody who can use it as a resource. More importantly, pray for that person, that couple, that spouse, or even yourself. Pray that God would equip you with tools to take action in a healthy direction.

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SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA 

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