"But when you turn off your emotions to the people you love, all it does is create distance. Especially us, as men. We tend to turn off all emotion, even when we don’t need to. That used to be me, but it all changed after I found myself on Ground Zero as a firefighter during 9/11.⁠
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The NYC fire department lost 343 firefighters. Being there on that day was like being on another planet. I saw so many people I knew just... vanish. But it was the months afterwards that were incredibly stressful.⁠
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We firefighters don’t get a lot of help with learning to talk about stressful events. We learn to separate our work from our home and that’s about it. The problem was that my wife was stressed out too. She felt like she couldn’t talk to me because she didn’t want to make me feel worse. Then, I couldn’t talk to her because I didn’t want to bring work home. What do you think started happening to my marriage?⁠
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There was no oxygen to give life to my marriage, so the distance crept in. So much of what I teach now is what I learned to do back then. It's called Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). I never thought I’d be traveling around the world talking about emotions. It’s all about flexibility. If we’re okay getting help to turn it off, we should all be okay getting help to turn it back on.” — George Faller, MS, LMFT

 

You can reach George Faller at:

 

George recommended:

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In this interview, we interview Christian apologist Nancy Pearcey on her new book, Love Thy Body. Yes, the title is a little shocking to some, but it is, as she argues, the biblical point of view. The body is created by God and is good. Down through the centuries, as secularism has taken root, the reverence for the body as God's creation has been displaced. We explore these topics along with asking, "What, if any, non-biblical ideas about the body have infiltrated Christianity? What's the societal result of not loving your body?"

Tune in for this fascinating conversation. 

 

You can reach Nancy at:

www.nancypearcey.com

 

Nancy Recommended:

 
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"We’re so open about sharing our story, as many times and as often as necessary, because if one more person can realize this happens, that this is a thing and that they can get out of it, then it’s so worth it." - Cole and Cait Zick, Directors of Moral Revolution

 

In this episode, Cole and Cait share their story of having entirely different upbringings around sex and sexuality, how they merged their lives, and how they healed from being completely disconnected in their sex life. Now, they have a thriving and healthy sex life and they're here to share how they did it. 

 

Cole and Cait recommended:

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Here’s the YouTube Video we talked about during the shout-out at the beginning on 3 Strategies for Praying Together as a Married Couple

Dr. Daniel Blash, a psychologist and pastor in St. Louis, Missouri is anointed, educated, and gifted. It was an honor to interview him about the impact that trauma can have on the marriage. In this episode, Dr. Blash addresses:

  • What trauma is vs. what it looks like
  • Five domains of intimacy
  • Small traumas that build up and the impact they can have on your marriage
  • Holding on to stuff and letting trauma take space in your life
  • How people get triggered
  • How to work through a sexual history
  • Healing through encounters with God and through godly counsel

Dr. Blash recommended:

We also recommend these books for couples healing from sexual trauma:

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P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:

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